Do you hate going to parties because you can’t think of anything to say to other people? Are you afraid to make the first move to talk to people because you’re unsure if the other party would be willing to interact with you?

It’s hard to break the ice with total strangers, but that’s not a reason to just sit in a corner. Initiating conversation can lead to connections, friendships and more. So how do you kickstart a conversation at a party? Try these party conversation starters:

Find someone interesting and go introduce yourself.

Complimenting other people is a good way to start a conversation. It could be their stylish dress, trendy bag, beautiful hairstyle, flawless makeup, pretty shoes, anything. Be sincere in your compliment.

  • “You have beautiful hair. What salon do you go to?” You can then talk about hair treatments, beauty treatments, beauty products, etc.
  • “I love your makeup, you’re so gorgeous! Do you do your own makeup? How do you apply eye makeup like that?”

Ask about what they do for work and what company they work for.

  • “How long have you been working there?”
  • “What do you like about your work, your company?
  • “What’s the biggest misconception people have about your work / company?”
  • “How did you get into the industry?”

Ask them how they know the party host, or how they met a common friend or acquaintance.

  • “How do you know [host’s name]?”
  • “How did you meet [person’s name]?”

If a person is there with his or her significant other, ask, “How did you two meet?”

Reference the event or party that you’re attending. You can talk about the venue, the food, the music.

  • “The food here is great. I love __ food. Do you know a good restaurant that serves ___ food?”
  • “I love the songs of ___. What type of music do you like?”
  • “This place reminds me of ___. What do you think about this place?”

Talk about your favourite things, favourite places, favourite things to do.

  • “Have you read a good book lately?”
  • “Have you seen any good movies lately?”
  • “Have you been on a vacation lately? Where did you go? Tell me about it.”
  • “I’d love to go to [country] because ____. What about you, what’s your dream destination?”
  • “Do you play sports?”

From these party conversation starters, you can find out more about each other and discover common topics you can talk about.

Having a conversation is a two way traffic. Don’t make the conversation all about you. Be interested in the other party’s interests and opinions. Be prepared to open up and share something about yourself. Remember that everyone is different. Respect each other’s opinions and choices.

Why don’t you take a chance, go to parties and meet new people? Hopefully by being a little bit more social, you’ll win more friends. Won’t life be more fun and interesting then?

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